Darica Paula, 2014

To My Someday Kids

posted on Saturday, January 11, 2014 @ 11:31 AM

Dear Blessings (or commonly known as kids),

This is Nanay, writing you a letter some years before you are even conceived. It’s not that I can’t wait for the both of you to come to this world but as early as now, I want to lay on the table my plans for you - at least, the ones I have control over. Not such plans like naming you with Isabelle and Miguel; perhaps, it’s too early to tell. One thing I know now and is for sure, I love you so much more than I love my very own self.

I am pretty confident that you’ll both grow as two smart individuals, who are able to taste the world with your little and innocent hands; but, let me be the one to show you how wonderful life is, while I still can. On some things, let me teach you basic how-to’s for I want you to learn before you even fall. But on some few instances, please understand that I will purposely let you go to the battlefield on your own, not because it’ll please me to see you in wounded knees and crying times but because I just have to. I don’t want to teach you how mistakes play an essential role in your lives; instead, I’ll let you figure out yourselves. As your Nanay, the most I can give you are constant notes to live by because I want to instill in you that the truest wisdom only comes from within you. Only from within.

One day, you’ll inevitably come running to me to share your wildest dreams and greatest desires. Perhaps, you’ll say you want to be doctors and heal the less fortunate people because for the both of you, helping hands heals you back. And, businessmen who stands out into the wild with billion-peso worth of ideas because for you, through your businesses, you can help less fortunate people to raise their own families well. Or maybe, you simply want to be painters because you appreciate the beauty beyond the stills. Or, writers because you can make two different worlds be in one. Whatever your someday wishes will be, Nanay will always be here. Let me give you strength before you even need it, for I know it takes a great leap of strength to brave fears. Allow me to encourage you to take an extra mile for every thing you believe you deserve. Let me be your #1 fan because I really am. Kids, let me be the one to tell you that the whole world is yours to take if you believe in the power of your dreams.

If only I can freeze and break the moment when I will see you, son, spraying perfume on a set of beautiful stationery papers for the one you’re courting or when I see you, daughter, reading love notes from those pretty envelopes from your suitors, I definitely will. But, this picture is yours and this is one I can never get into, unfortunately. On my end, the most I can do is pray to the Heavens that one day, you’ll be blessed with your perfect matches. I won’t care if your zodiac signs don’t really get along as long as you and your partners grow mutually within your respective relationships. To my son, when you search for that lucky girl, make sure she doesn’t take advantage of your weaknesses, I hope you know what I mean. Make sure she doesn’t rule over you. Make sure she respects your interests and support your endeavors whole-heartedly. On the flipside, be a man to her. Don’t make her cry over the littlest things. Protect her with all of you. Don’t take advantage of her weaknesses. Love her like she’s the one. Or simply be like your dad. If you’re, at least, half of him, I know, you’ll be a good one - someone I can be proud of. And to you my daughter, choose a partner who sets his family above all. Choose the one who is never afraid of showing genuine affection. Choose the loyal and faithful, rolled into one. Or, simply choose someone, again, like your dad. Again, on the flipside, even if there are many others who like you, step back. Find contentment in him for he deserves it. Be loyal and faithful to him, just like he is to you. Encourage him to pursue his dreams and let him test his wings. Give him time and space for what he is and not you want him to be. Make your communication open for it is the key to everything. Be gentle and kind. Lastly, be there for him, always and no matter what.

Kids, your Dad and I love you so much more than what love really means. Whatever the future holds for the both of you, let me remind you that even if the whole world takes you away from us, at the end of the day, we are still waiting here for you. Let our arms be your true home - not the one that does punish after a failure but the one that’ll never get tired of being proud of what you’ve become.

Love,
Nanay