Darica Paula, 2014

Who Do You Settle For

posted on Saturday, March 15, 2014 @ 4:04 PM

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In puffy eyes fresh from a quick cry, I ask myself: "who do you settle for?" I stop and think. I hear myself clearly but I feel the need to ask myself again:

"Who do you really settle for?"

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Does he need to be that kind who still stands taller than me even if I wear my favorite pair of heels? Does he need to be the most gentleman in the group? Does he need to live his life within a schedule? Does he need to know how to make my favorite french toasts? Does he need to be a singer or musically-inclined of some sort? Does he carry himself well in just a plain white shirt and a pair of casual pants?

I can't deny those things can be considered but I'm still after few things that weigh more than that.

I settle for someone who knows what he has when he still has me. He's the kind who appreciates rather than commits mistakes and regrets. He does his best at his most comfortable setting and fights hard when things get rough only to keep me because he's aware he can never find me twice.

I settle for the one who values time. He sees quantity and quality as one synergy and not two separate concepts. He ~~finds~~ makes time even for, at least, 30 minutes and makes the most out of it - all because he can't find the warmth of my caress anywhere else.

I settle for the man who fully understands what "commitment" is all about. He doesn't take back all set plans under swinging circumstances just because he's not comfortable with it. He chooses to underdeliver than to disappoint; after all, futile efforts still count.

I settle for that one person of surprises - be it big or small. He is someone who knows how to add spice to the relationship in ways that excites me or make me look forward to tomorrows. He knows exactly when to give a bouquet of pretty tulips and daisies or a piece of white long stem rose. He throws up simple surprises on ordinary days just because he simply wants it. He loves to wake me up at the comfort of my own bed because he can no longer wait for me to wake up to a fancy date.

I settle for a man who has big dreams and reach it. Aside from me, he knows he still have other wonderful blessings that are due appreciating. He feels the sense of contentment and sense of fulfillment in every thing he is engaged with. He believes in a blissful life - his ambition turns into reality, the beauty of time well-spent and a family he can call his very own.

Lastly, I settle for the one who knows my set of weaknesses and fears; and he acknowledges and more importantly, respects it. He understands he can't undo my past but he knows he has the ability to build a brighter "now".

I settle for no one less than this. I settle for someone whose source of joy is found right on my face. To him, nothing feels so wonderful than seeing me happy not because I deserve but because, for him, his world can't be any better than that.